Out of the heart the mouth speaks, and what we speak we create.
By: Susan Deborah Schiller
How you tell your story creates your world. It's your story, and if you're not where you want to be in life, at any given time you can say, "This may be my story, up to now, but this is not how it's going to end!"
What happens when shock and trauma, pain and loneliness intrude? Sometimes it's all you can do to get out of bed, let alone make it through a day. Many times the emotional trauma turns into physical disease.
Professionals tell us the same trauma hits us repeatedly and the pain does not subside until we can rewrite our story. How we perceive what happened, and more importantly, how we perceive ourselves can speed recovery.
Why so many of us remain stuck: The pain keeps cycling because we use our minds to recreate the event. We focus on the problem. Or we hang out with friends and family who reinforce our victim mentality with sympathetic words instead of overcoming words. It feels good, at the moment, to receive sympathy… but sympathy alone will lock you behind bars and throw away the key.
The key to unlock the prison: How you retell your story will resurrect either pain or hope. How you listen to others tell your story dictates how long your pain will continue. How you rewrite your story will create your identity as either God's child or a prisoner at the mercy of the next cycle of chaos and trauma.
I'm not a mental health professional and I'm not here to give medical advice. I am one who has escaped prison, recording the journey in my diaries. My diaries listened to me as I struggled and anguished through:
- Repeatedly being told for two decades by my husband that I was stupid, worthless, and unable to succeed in life;
- Being threatened by my husband that my body would be mutilated and then murdered;
- Being intimidated, threatened, and shunned by church leaders, abandoned by everyone in my spiritual network;
- Losing everything: family, friends, home, business;
- Getting up, starting over, and then getting kicked back down again;
- Rewriting my story and watching as God changes my world, as the Kingdom of heaven invades my life… a resurrected life.
My life isn't perfect today and in many ways I'm only just getting started. But there is peace, new growth, and happiness. I know I don't have to repeat the same old cycles of trauma and chaos. More than that, I'm creating a new family legacy for my children and grandchildren.
It's a written legacy, because there is power in writing your family's future. And each member of the family gets to contribute to the legacy!
God is bringing us all Home. The family is the backbone of society. He wants us to be healed and whole. I love how the Old Testament ends with a stunning picture of complete restoration! This is what we have to look forward to here on earth… not just after death!
“Count on it: The day is coming, raging like a forest fire. All the arrogant people who do evil things will be burned up like stove wood, burned to a crisp, nothing left but scorched earth and ash— a black day. But for you, sunrise! The sun of righteousness will dawn on those who honor my name, healing radiating from its wings. You will be bursting with energy, like colts frisky and frolicking. And you’ll tromp on the wicked. They’ll be nothing but ashes under your feet on that Day.” God-of-the-Angel-Armies says so... ~ Malachi 4
Our Creator hovered over the chaos and with His WORD he created the earth… right out of the void of chaos! He painted an earthly paradise with His Word. He's given us the same authority to impact our world, using the brush-stroke of our words.
We are created to dream big dreams, not to shrink our dreams to fit our paycheck. We are meant to shine brilliantly, confronting and overcoming the darkness… not reacting as victims. God wants us to write these stories down, for ourselves and to bless the next generation.
For our present troubles are small and won't last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! ~ 2 Corinthians 4:17
It's time to wake up, to rise up! Suffering has a function. Sometimes it's meant to wake us up from our illusions, but the shattering of our illusions hurts only momentarily. One we've awakened, we can truly begin to create a new future.
With all my love,
Susan Schiller knows how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and businesses, and more. Susan's upcoming, interactive memoir, "On the Way Home," tells the story of how she came to be known as "the most abused woman" her counselors had yet met and how she learned to navigate to freedom and fullness.
Today Susan helps people write their life stories, unearthing the treasures of their past and sowing them into their future, creating new family legacies.
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