Sword of Truth: Write Your Destiny
By: Susan Deborah
In the series, “Letters to Readers“
When you can read the story of your past, you realize that you are part of a bigger story – God’s story – and that He wants to inhabit that very place of hell – your living nightmare – with His glory. He wants to write your destiny into the bigger story.
This may be your current reality, dear heart: You are trapped in a living nightmare of domestic violence, one violent episode after another, spanning decades. It’s to the point where due to ill health and/or poverty you are completely dependent on your current abuser, unless someone intervenes to rescue you.
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The value of telling your story is not so much to make you feel better, but to identify the messages, the patterns, and the main characters – particularly the villains – so that you can re-frame the past and rewrite your future.
Writing your destiny is something that is best done in community, so you receive thoughtful feedback from friends who have listened to where you have been and can ask the question that will help you discover:
- What is God doing on your behalf?
- What are the promises God’s given you?
- Who is God? Who are you, in light of who He is?
It’s not merely your abuser that wants you destitute, disabled, and dis-empowered. Your abuser is someone controlled by one of the main villains in your life. This villain plays multiple roles, using characters like a parent, a spouse, or anyone.
You can’t run or hide from this villain. He will keep showing up in the form of different characters until you get what you need. He’s in your life for a reason, to give you a gift, as you learn to extract the provision from the problem. He won’t go until you collect your reward.
For example, if one of your villain’s names is Infirmity, it would have you demobilized, even paralyzed, and shut in. God wants to use this very darkness – this bit of chaos – to create something beautiful. He wants to transform you from a widow to a bride!
The first step is to escape the “false reality” your abuser has created is to name the source of your abuse.
We NAME our ADVERSARY because in naming him, we gain power over him. I’m not talking about our spouse’s name. I’m not saying we have to put our abuser’s name in public view. It’s not that kind of name.
We have to deal with the abuse and the abuser, yes… but to get our lives back, we have to go to the source and name it.
We can’t just call it “The Enemy” or “The Devil”. “The devil made him do it” is not strong enough.
We must nail it on the head. What is in YOUR HEART that the adversary wants to kill?
For me, it was my lifetime DREAM of being a WIFE and MOM. That’s what I wanted, more than anything, to create a happy home! Intimacy, unconditional love, the pursuit of happiness in our family life was my greatest dream. I loved being a wife and mom, more than anything in the whole world! That was my DREAM! So I have named my enemy, THE WIDOW MAKER….
When you’ve been married to a sociopath there are multiple layers of deception, and at each level there is a separate grieving process.
You don’t simply lose the love of your life. You also lose your identity. You lose your dream. You lose family and friends. You lose assets and income earning potential. You lose hope, because your mind is no longer functioning the way it’s meant to work. You lose the ability to make wise decisions because your brain is neurologically impaired, due to deep mental damage and scars.
“Stab the body and it heals, but injure the heart and the wound lasts a lifetime.” ~ Mineko Iwasaki
So we take those villains, name them, and write a new role for them to play, using God’s own decrees. This enemy who desires you to be shut in, unloved, unwanted, destitute, unable to work, unable to drive….
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With all my love,
Sue
Hi, I’m Susan Deborah. Yes, it’s my real picture… just an ordinary selfie in my backyard.
I live with my family in the mountains, surrounded by ancient forests, pure streams, and mighty rivers. I work at a local grocery store to earn my living. My earthly needs are simple as I try to let my inner child lead me, instead of me trying to be what the world says I should be and do.
My kingdom of God career is a Heart Scribe. I love to write from God’s heart and have been recording His living Word for the past three decades. It’s brought me so much beauty, joy, peace, and happiness!
I love to inspire trauma survivors to write their life stories, unearthing the treasures of their past and sowing them into the future. We dip our pens in blood and write the pain away… as God has shown me how to do, in the company of supportive friends and family. We are writing ourselves into a better world and it’s the most exciting place to be!
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Revelation 3:18 "I counsel you to buy from Me gold refined in the fire, that you may be rich; and white garments, that you may be clothed, that the shame of your nakedness may not be revealed; and anoint your eyes with eye salve, that you may see."