All is Well

All is Well

By: Susan Deborah Schiller

Trekking through the wilderness with my children helped me to trust that "all is well" in the world, even if something insidiously evil had just threatened to suck me down into the abyss of despair. When I simply say the words, "all is well," a new wind blows through my soul… a fresh wind that brings peace, assurance, and calm.

Like fresh mountain air and pure mountain springs, declaring "all is well" permeates your soul with joy, peace, and love. It's radical self-care. It's like having your own personal water fall of pure spring water cascading into your soul. 🙂

All is well!

When you're surviving sociopathic abuse and grieving through the many layers of pain, there are certain phrases that gently reduce the pain, kind of like aspirin pills do to relieve inflammation and fever. These words and phrases have no toxic warnings on the label and you can take them as many times a day as needed. "All is well." "Everything's gonna be okay."

The same words can bring harm, if you are not a survivor and are not trained to understand the ways of sociopaths and say those words, without the benefit of understanding, to a survivor. A knife in the hands of a surgeon is quite different than the same knife in the hands of a toddler. Education is very important, whether in healing a physical or a spiritual heart. It's why I've created a "healing manifesto" for anyone who wishes to learn how to help a survivor of sociopathic abuse.

Words can kill or they can bring life.

Christians are generally "nice, good people" so we have very little knowledge of evil's ways. When a victim of sociopathic abuse attempts to share their story, the most common response is disbelief – closely followed by an attempt to contain the toxic spill and sweep it under the carpet. When the survivor insists her story is true, the most common scenario is to blame her and then shun her.

We blame our victims and promote the abusers. It's become an epidemic and hardly anyone is talking about it … because when we do, we get threatened to be quiet.

I raise my voice, on behalf of socioipathic abuse survivors, because I am one of them and I know so many of them, all across the world and in my community. Most of them are too scared to share their stories, and the silence is deafening!

Nevertheless, all is well. Little by little, light is shining into these dark pits.

Like the hymn, "It is Well With My Soul," whose writer, Horatio Spafford, composed as his ship passed the spot in the ocean where the SS Ville Du Havre sank in the depths, burying his four daughters all at once beneath the ocean waves. This happened after his successful attorney practice and real estate investments burned in the 1871 Great Chicago Fire!

Horatio was a man who could say "It is well with my soul". More than one hundred years later, his song is still one of the most popular hymns!

Like Horation Spafford, we are survivors. We may have lost everything, including careers, homes, and family members, and even our health, but, we can say these simple three words: "All is well" and it is TRUE!

Anything is possible! Words have the power to create! These three words can help to change the atmosphere from grief and despair to calm and secure. Recently I was asked by Christina Rasmussen, of Second Firsts, to record a small part of my story. In this segment, I share how "Everything's gonna be all right" or "All is well" helped me to re-enter the world. I hope it encourages you, or someone you know 🙂

All is well, dear heart!

For some creative fun, consider clicking the image above to play in the "Three-Word-Wednesday" blog hop! All you do is choose three words and just start writing whatever comes to your mind 🙂

Choosing love today,

Sue

PS  If you would like to learn more about sociopathic abuse and how you can best help a survivor, I have several articles that will help keep you safe as you navigate the deep, murky waters of one of evil's most silent killers of Christian women and children. Click here to go to the archive of articles to help you understand sociopathic abuse.

Susan Schiller knows how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and businesses, and more. Susan's upcoming, interactive memoir, "On the Way Home," tells the story of how she came to be known as "the most abused woman" her counselors had yet met and how she learned to navigate her way out of hell to a rich and satisfying life. In her lifetime, Susan has served in duties ranging from home school mom – to pastor –  to full-time deliverance minister – and to Midwest regional prayer coordinator for a large international ministry. These days you can usually find Susan soaking in her favorite hot springs pool, reading a book (or several), blogging, baking bread, or hanging out with her family and friends. You can get a free copy of Susan's upcoming book, "On the Way Home" by registering here.

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Tagged as: Choosing Love Today, Deborah White Dove, Getting Your Life Back, PTSD - post-traumatic stress disorder, Voice of the Bride