Prepare for War: Understanding the Mind of a Sociopath

Prepare for War: Understanding Mind-Control and How Sociopaths Think (Part 3)

By: Susan Deborah Schiller

Previous Chapters -Part 1: The Greatest Evil Today Lurks Behind the Masks of Christian Pastors and Leaders    Part 2: Tracking A Psychopath

It's important to know your enemy and to know yourself, so this why I delve into a territory that may, at first, seem odd and quite uncomfortable. I hope you will be patient, if you're unfamiliar with sociopaths and mind-control.

How we perceive the image of God is the heart of the war. How we see God is how we will become, ourselves. This is why Religion is full of monsters we call sociopaths… because we have believed a lie that God is a terrorist who sends people to hell. Most of our teaching is fear-based. Jesus wasn't like that, though… he never preached on hell at all! Hell is not taught in the Bible, at least, not the way it's commonly preached.

The devil has projected himself into our image of God, and that is why there are so many tyrants in our ministries.

“Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War

“Begin by seizing something which your opponent holds dear; then he will be amenable to your will." ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

My enemy holds darkness and secrecy dear, so I will SHINE my Light. Let's begin at the beginning.

There is a specific method used, requiring trauma-bonding and mind-control techniques that create something like a "biological software program" inside a victim's mind and brain. This method only works between the ages of 18-months to 6-years old, but the ideal age is 3-years old. I don't have time or space to describe this process here, but if anyone wants to confer with me, they are welcome to email me.

Most sociopaths are formed in the womb or at a very young age.

There is maintenance involved throughout the person's life, as long as they are needed in service. These maintenance people are refered to as "handlers". Sometimes they are family members or people who have access to these young children.

The problem is, most people don't know how to de-program or dismantle the system. It's not purely biological and it's not totally spiritual. It's a combination of both.

For awhile, I was an object of curiosity to some of the handlers in charge of a psychopath I was given by my pastor to pray for. He told me they were watching me closely, because every program they installed I was able to dismantle. Deprogramming was simple, but on my own, I could not dismantle the system.

I'm going to form a composite profile of a typical sociopath using stories from various sociopaths I interviewed, because it opens up a window into the heart of a person who was sincerely interested in knowing about Goodness.

He said: "Sue, I know what the Dark side has to offer me, but if I leave, it's a one-way ticket. There's no going back alive, so I want to be sure your side is strong enough to protect me."

He recognized that I had something greater than his handlers, and that is what a psychopath needs and wants most… something powerful enough to beat their demonic jailers. In most cases, they are disappointed by Christians, because by and large, Christians do not want to understand evil.

Their ignorance of true evil makes them weak, and weakness is disgusting in a sociopath's eyes.

It's not love and grace and "Let's pray" they want; they need someone who has enough knowledge of evil's strategies to keep them safe as they transition out of the occult and into the Light.

It's not simply about casting out each and every demon or bringing the Light of Truth to each significant memory. Their demonic installations are so complex that even the most equipped Christian warriors cannot use standard deliverance ministry, not even Theophostics, to cast the demons out. It's specially designed to handle deliverance ministers, even to make you think the demons are coming out.

Ha! It's all a joke to the enemy who is far more sophisticated than we realize.

They have plants in every major inner healing and deliverance ministry. They are on top of everything we learn, and then they simply revise their strategies to throw more wrenches into the works. If you try to outwit evil, you're up against an enemy who is thousands of years ahead of you and knows Evil inside and out.

Believe me, you really don't want to study evil or compete with it. It damages the human mind!

In a psychopath's world, no one is to be trusted. They believe everyone is like them – out to trick you, if they can.

In a sociopath's world there are only two kinds of people: the weak and the strong, losers and winners, victims and abusers.  If you want to help a sociopath you can never appear weak. To them, it's all about power and control.

Our modern evangelical, charismatic churches provide the perfect environment to foster sociopathic leaders. The Christian abuser is the worst abuser of all.

A religious sociopath hides right in the open of an evangelical, charismatic church where prophetic signs and wonders are welcomed. They blend right in.

A signature mark of children of the devil is that they are competitive. They love to be on stage. They are extremely gifted and when they do speak, it's with charm, eloquence, and a really good story! They are really the best, as far as preachers and teachers. In Christian vernacular, they are "anointed" to the hilt.

They always want "MORE POWER" and are the first in line to receive laying on of hands for 'MORE' anointing.

They understand that is how the spiritual realm works. They are fish in water, in a charismatic environment.

Know your enemy. Know how they think.

How how they operate. Know what they really need and want.

Get under their skin and see through their eyes.

If we want to create abuse-free zones in our homes, churches, and communities, the solution is NOT MORE JAILS, not more convictions, and not more police.

Prisons are simply big businesses, today, which provide free slave labor. That's another story, though.

The solution is education. We simply need to know our enemy and address him in terms he understands. We need to SEE him as he is. We need to expose the darkness and show him our strength.

We need godly avengers.

“If ignorant both of your enemy and yourself, you are certain to be in peril.”  ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

“Knowing the enemy enables you to take the offensive, knowing yourself enables you to stand on the defensive.”  ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

If you want to enter the battlefield, tracking the psychopaths, and create abuse-free zones, you will be exposed for who you really are. They SEE you – the real you. They don't see you with God's eyes of unconditional love, though. They see you through their father's eyes – the eyes of judgment and condemnation. And they will usually be correct. They know all of your weaknesses.

Knowing the facts is not the same as knowing the Truth.

One of my sociopath leaders was beginning to escape, but his handlers kept re-traumatizing him. The reason most deliverance ministers fail, especially those who heavily rely on supporting a survivor through reliving their memories – the reason why it usually takes 15-years or longer to really see progress – is because we are no different than handlers, to these sociopaths.

I learned this the hard way. We simply become the new person to "fill them" with information, direction, and guidance. This is the typical Christian way!!!!

Even when we are trying to teach them to depend on the Trinity, they nearly always revert to depending on us. This way of "mercy and grace" and unconditional love is what I thought they needed, because in order to trust, you need to receive this kind of love – I used to think.

But, no, first they need to respect us.

They will have respect for you if you SEE the real person they are. Jesus demonstrated this. He called the Pharisees white-washed tombs.

Jesus did not tame his tongue or offer "more grace" to the religious leaders of his day. He simply SAW them and EXPOSED them for who they really were. One time he called them "snakes" and "vipers" and John the Baptist did the same.

We do no kindness to pathological people to extend more "grace" and "mercy". It's true grace and true mercy to expose the darkness. In fact, it's their only hope!

You must be prepared to take a proper "offensive position". Your defense is knowing your true identity as One with God, hidden in Christ. If you have any doubts or fears, low self-esteem, or other issues, they will all rise to the surface during combat.

They will take you DOWN! They will TEST you to your limits. These are not ordinary people you are dealing with.

You can never show fear. You can never show any weakness whatsoever. Take time to pull back, to rest, and to retreat. But always on your terms.

Part of your defensive posture is having gratitude for your enemies and appreciating the deeper work of God in your life, as a direct result of face-to-face exposure to evil.

You become better for having been broken. There is resurrection after crucifixion. But there will be crucifixion. There will be pain. You will go through everything Jesus went through.

Your resurrection is how the battle is finished.

We need godly avengers... And that's where I want to go in the next post. We need Dread Champions – not a lot, but a few – who will RISE UP to the challenge to create abuse-free zones, through the war of art and education, who can write ourselves into a better world.

True religion is understanding God's heart for justice. To speak up, to cry out, and to rescue captives held in dark prisons of abuse. To look after the orphans and widows (including those who are disconnected from the Family of God) and to keep ourselves unpolluted by the world's system, including the system of Religion as it now stands.

We must take the OFFENSIVE!

I speak to my own heart, because it goes against my very nature. I love peace. I must become a peacemaker, not a peacekeeper. Sometimes that means fighting to free the oppressed. It means war.

“Attack is the secret of defense; defense is the planning of an attack.”  ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

I welcome your responses… I don't have all the answers and I am still listening to stories and researching. Perhaps you may have the missing piece!

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With all my love,


Susan Schiller knows how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and businesses, and more. Susan's upcoming, interactive memoir, "On the Way Home," tells the story of how she came to be known as "the most abused woman" her counselors had yet met and how she learned to navigate to freedom and fullness.  

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helena March 26, 2016 at 7:00 pm

I believe that my Christian husband is a sociopath.  I was wooed by him at the onset because of my own failed relationships, and because of my naive belief that because he professed to be Christian – that meant he was above good.  He was the best!  I have evolved in my Christianity and realize that I was conned.  Each year he told everyone how awful I was, evil (his words) a bitch(his word), so as to create an aura of victimhood.  He tried to alienate my children from me as we are very close.  He saw them as obstacles to his reign.  And yet used them to be there for me when it was not his will to help.  He has condemned me to Hell, he has called me evil to my face and to those around us – and yet I am trapped – I am trapped by the Biblical promise, not to divorce.

I am wholly committed.  And he is not.  He believes that divorce, affairs, porn are just ways that he makes himself feel good and that God wants him to be 'happy'.  His friends don't support marriage, instead they share the same attitude of an almost 'hatred' toward their spouses. 

I am not without my PAstor, my children, and my friends, but sometimes, his ugliness is so devastating I can not fathom why I am stuck with this monster.  I want to hold to my Biblical teachings.  I want to forgive.  And yet, he is beyond imaginable in his vile tongue.  Today he condemned me to Hell and repeatedly called me evil and said he was a follower of Jesus whereas I was condemned to Hell for my evil ways. 

And then – he acted like nothing had happened.  Couldn't imagine why I was upset.  Couldn't fathom why I had no desire to be sitting down to dinner at a restaurant…

And it felt like I was in a world of insanity.


Susan Schiller March 26, 2016 at 9:24 pm

“A world of insanity…” yes, that is exactly what it’s like being married to a sociopath.

I am glad you have your pastor, children, and friends and that you are not cut off from support. 

A “vile tongue” and he “condemns you to hell” … words of the Accuser. 

Please be careful of what you are hearing every day… you don’t always realize it right away, but all those vile, condemning words have an effect on your brain. The toxins released in you cause illness in every way, if don’t take care. Have you sought counsel about leaving? 



Susan Schiller February 24, 2015 at 4:32 pm

This comment is X-rated and should not be read by anyone under 18 years of age and it may trigger victims of trauma-based mind control or other such traumatic events. Please don't read this if you feel the least bit hestitant.

Because a reader asked me about the relevence of their abuser's age being three when he first began demonstrating sociopathic traits, I have shared part of this story. 

The rest of the three year old story is that some cults have rituals that take place a victim's early childhood years. Three years of age is the ideal time, but it can also occur as early as 18-months or as late as age 5. More or less. They seem to prefer birthdays, especially the 3rd one.

On that day the young child is put into a container or a small space. It depends on what is available to the group. The child is helped to kill someone, usually a baby. Or it may be an animal. The child must sit with the dead, bloody body for a measure of time. Sometimes over night. 

It's a major trauma… but then the child is "rescued" – and I don't want to share a lot more details than this, because it's toxic material. The child is bonded to her rescuer. 

There is sodomy involved, usually, if not more sex. Again, to further bond with the child to the cult. Her mind is made to split. The child who participated in such horror is buried. In fact, some call this a "born again" experience. Some call it becoming a "chosen one". 

There are clear benefits promised and attached to these rituals, but in essence, the female victims are generally made into sex slaves. Yes, these grow up, marry, have children and lead ordinary lives. They may become pastors and church leaders, themselves.

But they may get a phone call or other type of communication that is designed to communicate only with the compartmentalized part of their mind that was demonically created for such a time and place.

Such a victim recently told me, "They want me to kill you. They use me to hurt people."

Another victim explained to me that "they" are waiting for the time of anarchy, when all systems fail and the world is in chaos, and then they all have assignments to carry out.

One victim told me she would be activated when she reached age 25. 6 years later she confesses she has lived most of her adult life as a sex addict and slave. 

It's very hard to help these victims because most of us lack education in the ways of evil. We are not yet "wise as serpents" and we are all too often erring on the side of being "innocent as doves". We need to be BOTH!

Like the male victim mentioned above, he really wanted OUT but he couldn't unless he had Christian support – and as of that date, there was no one who was willing to take him on, on our side. That was his story.



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