While the number of survivors emerging from abuse are swelling dramatically in numbers, there aren’t enough pastors, counselors, and therapists who are specifically trained in helping a survivor of sociopathic or narcissist abuse. In fact, survivors are helping to educate their therapists, these day!
Up until now, these victims have been suffering silently and the abuse is rapidly compounding.
Survivors will not get closure from a pathological person; rather, they need to get the facts for themselves, to have closure. A certain amount of education in pathologicals is necessary in the healing journey.
We can help these survivors by recognizing the red flags of sociopathic and narcissitic abuse. You don’t have to have a degree or be an expert to love an abuse victim, even to be a ‘first responder’.
Jesus, himself, was just a common working man. It’s the common, ordinary people who have helped me the most in recovering and healing from sociopathic abuse. So don’t be afraid if someone comes to you with an unusual story of brokenness and abuse, and you don’t know what do say or do!
The following articles and resources will equip and empower you to recognize the signs of a pathological relationship and how to help a survivor escape and recover.
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Tangled in the Tares By: Susan Deborah schiller In the series, "Love from Papa" Don't worry about scary beasts with horns carrying pitchforks – that's not true evil. The most hideous evil in the world is dressed up to look like a nice, perfect Christian. In fact, the Christian abuser is the worst kind. Lucifer, dressed in a cloak of Light. What […]
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Does A Sociopath Have A Heart By: Susan Deborah Schiller From the series, "Understanding Sociopaths & Abuse Tactics" A reader asked me, "does a sociopath have a heart"? In other words, is there ANY HOPE at all that they might change and become "real". I do know of extremely abusive people, even criminals, who have completely […]
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Is God in Control When Kids are Murdered? By: Susan Schiller Photo Credit: Jim Palmer A friend of mine shared a recent family story, which you can read about at Lancaster Online. It's a story none of us wants to hear, but it shows the real terror of what happens when victims of sexual predation […]
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Reinvention through Resurrection By: Susan Deborah Schiller From my social media newsfeed about a year ago, a friend wrote … "So I'm sitting here with a broken heart wondering what on earth could bring a sister in Christ to a point that she would take her own life??? I don't understand??? It troubles me that […]
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Beware of the Marriage Trap By: Deborah White Dove Modern wedding vows may be a sign of marriage dysfunction. Marriage vows can be a license to steal, kill, and destroy a woman's soul, along with the children. Marriage vows are not biblical, but making a marriage covenant is. At the heart of love is a covenant […]
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If you're the victim of a religious sociopath, I want to assure you that it's not because you're an ordinary victim of domestic violence. Don't let anyone tell you that it's because of your low self-esteem or whatever… it's definitely not that! By: Susan Deborah Schiller In a dream, I learned what caused me to attract […]
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What About Forgiveness? By: Susan Deborah Schiller Jesus commanded us to forgive each other, even up to 70 x 7 times, which means "unlimited grace". At the cross, with his dying breath, he prayed, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do." In Light of His example, what are we to think, when […]
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When A Victim Speaks Up, is it "Airing Dirty Laundry" or Exposing Evil? By: Susan Deborah Schiller The only thing harder than living with a narcissist or sociopath is leaving one. Here's the trap: When the true victim dares speak up, usually after years of silence, she is told not to "air dirty laundry" – and she […]
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Silence the Abused – Cover Up the Crime By: Susan Deborah Schiller I was married to a sociopath for two decades. We were active Christian leaders and from all outward appearances we were "normal". That's the scariest part about sociopaths – they look like normal Christians. Like tares in a wheat field, they blend in perfectly. […]
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When "Grace" Becomes Evil's Accomplice By: Kimberly Dimick With Kimberly's gracious permission, I am sharing her words to me a few years ago, when I was so unwilling to let go of my marriage. I felt "if I just give him more grace and love him more, our marriage can be saved". But there are […]
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What Does the Bible Say About Pastors who are Sociopaths? By: Susan Deborah Schiller When you know authentic love, the many varieties of counterfeits are simple to spot. The family of Christ Jesus was not well known or wealthy, and Isaiah tells us that Jesus was an ordinary man – that there was nothing about him that […]
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The Avengers – Answering the Cry for Justice By: Susan Deborah Schiller In that foggy state between dreaming and waking I heard that quiet inner voice say, "Some people think I don't intervene and rescue them, when in reality I set in motion a plan to save every family and individual on earth. It's called […]
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The World is Changing By: Susan Deborah Schiller In the series, "Passion for God" The world is changing. The wind is blowing and the waves are rising higher and higher. What anchors your soul? Faith? Art? Science? What you've always believed to be true? Recently I watched the musical, Fiddler on the Roof. […]
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More Restoration: China from Papa By: Susan Deborah Schiller "I will give you two mercies for every woe. I will restore to you all that was lost, times two." I felt God saying to me, so many years ago when all seemed lost, hopeless, and unredeemed. Did it matter that I lost houses, land, money, and […]
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The Sociopaths Among Us – What Do They Tell Us About Ourselves By: Susan Deborah Schiller Sociopaths / psychopaths walk among us every day – at work, church, and in our families. Some of them sincerely want to change. A few of them want to know Love. Sometimes they contact me, asking me if there is […]
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Piercing the Darkness By: Susan Deborah Schiller Straight out front, I don't normally post about pastors who abuse women and children in their congregation, even though a large part of why I'm here at Team Family Online is to rescue and restore those who have been spiritually hurt in their churches, especially by predators in […]
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The Benevolent Side of Evil By: Susan Deborah Schiller My second home used to be a suburban Pentecostal assembly. I worked 70-80 hours a week in our local church. It took a spiritual earthquake and ultimately, exile, for me to finally realize it was a closed system – a cult. We used the standard Bible translations, but we worshiped a different […]
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Adultery, Hypocrisy, and Spiritual Deception By: Susan Deborah Schiller Image Credit In the series, "Naked and Unashamed" R-rated. This is reading is for 18 and up. It also carries a trigger warning. Oh the many masks of sociopathy! When you first begin to get free of a pathological love relationship your eyes open to the […]
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Did You Marry the Wrong Mr. Right? By: Susan Deborah Schiller Part 1: The Perfect Prey Part 2: 10 Red Flags You're Marrying A Sociopath Part 3: Did You Marry the Wrong Mr. Right? Part 4: Create Your Own Jailbreak By sharing my story, Bethany's story, and the stories of other abuse survivors, we […]
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If You Witness Spiritual Abuse and Do Nothing About It, Consider Yourself Part of the Problem By: Susan Schiller I was reading a scientific article in Forbes written by Bill Frezza earlier this year, regarding the overwhelming evidence that scientific research is being manipulated and controlled by the powers that be, even to the point […]
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