Create Abuse-free Zones in your Church, Community, and Home

While the number of survivors emerging from abuse are swelling dramatically in numbers, there aren’t enough pastors, counselors, and therapists who are specifically trained in helping a survivor of sociopathic or narcissist abuse. In fact, survivors are helping to educate their therapists, these day!

Up until now, these victims have been suffering silently and the abuse is rapidly compounding.

Survivors will not get closure from a pathological person; rather, they need to get the facts for themselves, to have closure. A certain amount of education in pathologicals is necessary in the healing journey.

We can help these survivors by recognizing the red flags of sociopathic and narcissitic abuse. You don’t have to have a degree or be an expert to love an abuse victim, even to be a ‘first responder’.

Jesus, himself, was just a common working man. It’s the common, ordinary people who have helped me the most in recovering and healing from sociopathic abuse. So don’t be afraid if someone comes to you with an unusual story of brokenness and abuse, and you don’t know what do say or do!

The following articles and resources will equip and empower you to recognize the signs of a pathological relationship and how to help a survivor escape and recover.

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A Lesson from Jeremiah about Racing Against Horses By: Susan Deborah Schiller To love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength during the normal times is a good thing. To love him with the same passion (or more) when it seems the whole world stands opposed to you, is a whole different level […]

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Abusers: You Don't Need to Forgive Them or Give Them More Grace Sermon Audio by Sam Powell I hope you will listen to Sam Powell's sermon (link above). I've taken a few notes from the sermon, below. What he preaches is contrary to the policy of many churches. It's the Truth, as I have experienced […]

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Faith as a Catalyst for Hope and Love By: Susan Deborah Schiller There are still days when I feel disconnected… like my brain has a huge lag… when I feel lost in the dark. The neuroscience behind pathological love relationships helps me to understand there will be these kinds of days. It takes a long time […]

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In the PTSD Zone: The Anti-Happiness Plague Have you stepped down from a career? Feel like your life will never be normal again? Unable to take normal environmental noise and stress anymore? Are you asking, "What happened to me – I can't think straight anymore!" Do you have feelings of having lost identity? Are you […]

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His Eye is on the Sparrow By: Susan Schiller The song, "His Eye is on the Sparrow," has been playing on the Spirit station of my mind. "Economic justice" is a phrase I've been running into a lot lately, and it's message is burrowing deep into my mind. Down beneath the layers of self-preservation. Who […]

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The Perfect Prey By: Susan Deborah Schiller Next Chapters: Part 1: The Perfect Prey   Part 2: 10 Red Flags You're Marrying A Sociopath   Part 3: Did You Marry the Wrong Mr. Right?    Part 4: Create Your Own Jailbreak   Bethany Deaton, age 27, died October 30, 2012 in Kansas City, Missouri with a plastic […]

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  You Shouldn't Have to Stand Alone By: Susan Deborah Schiller No one heard my silent cries but him. He told me it would always be that way. And then he grinned, that mocking, smirk – more like a half-smile, except that it held no warmth and made me shiver. He was not only my […]

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How to Help a Survivor Get Over the Trauma & Grief By: Susan Deborah Schiler Surviving sociopathic or narcissistic abuse is a challenge the majority of us do not understand. The survivor is usually a female and she feels all alone. The months leading up to and following her escape are perilous. The sociopath moves […]

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In Case of Sudden Disaster, Grin! By: Susan Deborah Schiller "I'm grooming you to grin in the face of disaster," said Papa God as I made my daily fear-dump in a worn out leather journal. Escaping a cult-church and an abusive husband at the same time had left me isolated, wrestling the growing pack of […]

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What is a Sociopath? By: Susan Deborah Schiller I was married to a sociopath for 30-years. My marriage counselors told me I was the most abused woman they had ever met. In the course of gaining my freedom I have listened to the life stories of survivors and of sociopaths. Like many other survivors, the information […]

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An Encounter at God's Beauty Spa By: Susan Deborah Schiller  What if the abuse you've endured serves to make you bigger, better, and more beautiful? What if what scares you turns into your greatest source of blessing?​ What if the ugliest things you've seen and heard are being used to make you more beautiful?  What if the weapon […]

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Time to Get Your Life Back! By: Susan Deborah Schiller Just as city streets are safer at night when the dark corners are well lit, we are going to identify the crime scenes and establish abuse-free zones in those areas. We first began by identifying your adversary, and now we're going to walk down the […]

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Beware of the strong woman! By: Susan Deborah Schiller Warning: Trigger alert. Please don't read if you are sensitive to images of family violence. "Susan, I'm ashamed of you! Why can't you have more grace?" said my pastor, after telling him I was divorcing my husband. We were just shy of our 20-year anniversary and […]

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It's Not Your Fault By: Susan Deborah Schiller Note: This letter is written not to one specific reader, but is addressed to several different readers who wrote to me this past weekend, who have asked many of the same questions. Dear Friend, You have a good heart and it's not our fault you trusted a […]

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The Unmaking By: Susan Deborah Schiller How am I to interpret the meaning of a life lived in servitude to a sociopathic husband – a leader of our family and church? What happens when the devastation – emotional, economic, and neurological – forces us to reconsider what we want from life and what we don't want?  […]

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Flesh-eating Christians and the Pearl of Great Price By: Susan Deborah Schiller From the series, "Love from Papa" where I try to listen to God's heartbeat while asking Him the tough questions on my heart. God, why don't you stop this wicked person? Why do you see him torturing me day after day, and do […]

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Predators in the Pulpit: Anatomy of a Seduction Trigger Alert: This post may not be suitable for all persons, nor for younger people.The purpose of writing this article in the 1st person of Evil is to allow you inside the head of a predator who was using the pulpit to access his victims. I have […]

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Duplicity – Living a Double Life By: Susan Deborah Schiller My husband, a church leader also, was a pathological liar. But what was I? I was lying every day, every time I smiled. Every time I taught in church.  I lied every time I assured people I loved my husband and my husband loved me.  […]

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Tangled in the Tares By: Susan Deborah schiller In the series, "Love from Papa" Don't worry about scary beasts with horns carrying pitchforks – that's not true evil. The most hideous evil in the world is dressed up to look like a nice, perfect Christian. In fact, the Christian abuser is the worst kind. Lucifer, dressed in a cloak of Light. What […]

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Does A Sociopath Have A Heart By: Susan Deborah Schiller From the series, "Understanding Sociopaths & Abuse Tactics" A reader asked me, "does a sociopath have a heart"? In other words, is there ANY HOPE at all that they might change and become "real". I do know of extremely abusive people, even criminals, who have completely […]

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