The Best Revenge is a Well-lived Life

Plunging into the Heart of Love

By: Susan Deborah Schiller

I’m deep below the surface again, down under the threatening waves of anger, hurt, depression, and the seemingly endless stream of bad news. But it’s not my battle this time around. 
I’m here with a sister plunging below the surface to find the heart of love. I know she’s going to find her dream here – and the reason for all the pain.
Perfect love casts out fear, and it’s only when all fear is conquered that we can truly live the abundant life Christ promises.
Near the surface stormy waves tower and plunge, curl and splash, but deep underneath the ominous riptides it’s silent, dark, and heavy. How can we know this depth of love without plunging down into the depths, into that overwhelming riptide of certain disaster? 
It’s the sum of all our fears, but under the inky dark illusion of despair lies the dream we’ve been searching for all our lives.
Like traveling to the bottom of the ocean and seeing creatures not yet discovered, not yet identified, not yet classified, there’s an urgency – a passion – to make these moments below the surface count. 
Never do I forget that when dark waves of impending disaster appear in our lives that God’s glory is hidden inside those very harbingers of doom. I’m no longer afraid of the deep. The water is surprisingly warm and I find I can swim. My confidence helps my sister plunge deep below the surface.
It’s true that sometimes I feel buried in the depths of certain disaster, but even here – even in this impossible place – I feel His presence!
Truly, God is present everywhere, even in this very deep, strange place… so we can know Him in the heights and in the depths, to know this great Love that is deeper and higher than our imagination can carry us. 
And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. – Ephesians 3:18
If this is where you are, as well… plunging deep below the riptide of fear, anger, doubts, depression… and you’re tired of the gaslighting, the smear campaigns, and all the charming deception… then you’ve found the place where dreams come true.
Oh my brave friend, He’s saving our children. And there is no better answer to prayer. There is no deeper place a mother’s heart can be touched. 
Oh God, for all of our children and grandchildren affected by the horrors of abuse, please plunge us into the abyss of your Great Love! May the promise of Malachi 4 be fulfilled for each everyone of you who reads these words today.
The hearts of the children will be turned to their parents, the hearts of the parents will be turned to their children, and all families will be made whole again.
Like calves leaping out to pasture in early spring, so shall we all be tenderly and joyfully nurtured in a land overflowing with abundance. This is our inheritance, if we choose love and life… if we have the passion and reckless abandonment to plunge deep below the surface of life and plunge into the heart of God, hidden in the deep.
The best revenge is a life well-lived, and that only comes by conquering all your fears and experiencing abundant life.
Embrace the pain and dive on down below the grief. Explore the hidden blessings – two mercies for every woe – at the bottom of your soul. 
For me, writing exposes the buried treasures. This is where I cultivate meaning in the pain and harvest a new legacy for my family. Let’s write to freedom and create an abuse-free future!

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With all my love,


Susan Schiller knows how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and businesses, and more. Susan’s upcoming, interactive memoir, “On the Way Home,” tells the story of how she came to be known as “the most abused woman” her counselors had yet met and how she learned to navigate to freedom and fullness.  
Today Susan helps people write their life stories, unearthing the treasures of their past and sowing them into their future, creating new family legacies.

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Susan Schiller July 15, 2015 at 6:31 am
I see and know what you have endured at the hands of others, but I want you to give up on any thought of retaliation or retribution.  When you take matters into your own hands instead of putting your trust in Me, I cannot bring justice.  Your forgiveness and the release of your anger will make a way for My judgment to be carried out, says the Lord.  Romans 12:19Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord.


Victor Bischof June 1, 2015 at 10:06 pm

You are a very disgusting example of a human being, I pity Daniel. You have three children and you were never mentally fit to raise a dog. Don’t call, don’t send letters, and you will never see my daughter again if I have my way. You’re a failure in life and as a parent, you’re own daughter told me stomach wrenching stories of child abuse by you. You are truly the psychopath, the mentally ill.


Susan Schiller April 10, 2016 at 12:21 pm

The words you speak are powerful, but the curses that you launched against me have returned to you:


Susan Schiller May 15, 2015 at 7:51 am
There is a difference between surviving and thriving.  You can survive many things and even escape disaster by the skin of your teeth, but it is My will for you to thrive in the midst of conflict and upheaval.  I would have you think of everything that you encounter and endure as an opportunity to grow spiritually.  View every circumstance as a way to establish yourself in Me, says the Lord.  

John 17:22-23  And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one:  I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.


Susan Schiller May 14, 2015 at 11:51 am

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. ~ George Sand


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